Grieving the death of a parent is one of the most profound challenges anyone can face. For Filipinos, this experience often comes with layers of cultural expectations, unspoken rules, and a deep sense of responsibility to family. While grief is universal, the way it is processed can vary significantly across cultural contexts.
Read MoreFor many gay Filipinos, the journey to self-acceptance is not just personal—it’s deeply intertwined with family expectations. Growing up in a culture that places immense value on family unity, respect, and tradition, LGBTQ+ Filipinos often find themselves navigating a complex web of guilt and grief when their true selves are met with rejection or conditional love. But what does this grief look like, and how can healing begin?
Read MoreGenerations of Filipinas have grown up internalizing a single narrative: family always comes first. While this value fosters deep connections and a strong sense of community, it often comes at a personal cost.
Read MoreFor many Filipinos, childhood was marked by an unrelenting pressure to be perfect. Whether it was excelling in academics, winning competitions, or simply “making your family proud,” the expectations were sky-high. This drive for perfection, while often rooted in love and cultural pride, left countless Filipinos with feelings of inadequacy that persist into adulthood.
Read More“You’re so mature for your age!” “Wow, you’re always so calm and collected!” Compliments like these might sound like a pat on the back, but for many, they carry a heavy weight. Beneath their surface lies a history of inherited survival mechanisms, often passed down through generations. These phrases, meant to be uplifting, sometimes reflect deeper patterns of generational trauma, particularly in families shaped by cultural expectations and hardships.
Read MoreFilipino families are known for their warmth, tight-knit connections, and shared values. But while these familial bonds are a source of strength, they can also carry deep-seated challenges. From double standards to unspoken expectations, many Filipino children grow up navigating a labyrinth of cultural pressures rooted in generations of tradition.
How do we reconcile our love for family with the weight of these expectations? How can therapy help us break cycles of shame, guilt, and obligation while maintaining our cultural identity?
Read MoreGrowing up gay in a Filipino household is a unique journey. It’s a complex intersection of identity, culture, and familial expectations—one that often feels isolating, confusing, and, at times, heartbreaking. For many Filipino-Americans, where traditional values dominate and religion plays a significant role, being gay means navigating a world that doesn’t feel built to embrace who you truly are.From whispered expectations of masculinity to the silent judgment of extended family, the struggle to reconcile one’s authentic self with cultural norms can feel like an insurmountable obstacle. But the journey of self-acceptance is one that deserves to be told.
Read More“I pressure myself to be perfect.”
“I feel like I’m not allowed to be angry.”
“I put my family’s needs above my own.”
These are just a few of the shared experiences eldest Filipina daughters have voiced—a testament to the weight of cultural expectations and familial roles they often carry. While the role of the eldest child is celebrated in Filipino households, it’s also one of the most challenging. For many, it comes with an unspoken expectation to be perfect, selfless, and emotionally resilient for the sake of their families.
