When it comes to Filipino culture, humor is often used as a tool for communication, affection, and sometimes, even discipline. Many of us have heard these phrases: "You need to learn...what if I die?" or "Someday, you'll be the one to take care of us." While these comments are often delivered as light hearted jokes, they can carry a heavy emotional burden.

The Hidden Weight of Words

These "jokes" aren't just offhand comments; they reflect deeper cultural expectations and family dynamics that can lead to stress and anxiety. Phrases like "You're so skinny, eat more!" followed by "Ay, another one?! That's why you're getting taba" (fat) can be particularly harmful. They encapsulate the conflicting messages that many of us grow up with—messages that are all too often internalized, leading to issues with self-esteem and negative body image. 

Therapy helps us see that these comments, while hurtful, are rooted in a cultural narrative that places immense pressure on both parents and children. It’s more often a reflection of their own insecurities growing up.

Therapy: A Path to Understanding and Healing

At Sweet Mango Therapy, they understand that these jokes can weigh us down more than we realize. Their team of Filipino-American therapists are here to provide support, helping you navigate the complexities of these family interactions. Their approach to therapy acknowledges the cultural context of these remarks while providing tools to deal with their impact.

What Therapy Can Offer

Sweet Mango Therapy provides a range of services tailored to address the unique challenges faced by the Filipino community. From dealing with body-shaming to managing the expectations of family roles, their therapists are equipped to help you through it all. Here’s what you can expect:

• Creating Firm Boundaries: Learn to set healthy limits with family members to protect your emotional well-being.

• Overcoming People-Pleasing Tendencies: Gain the confidence to prioritize your needs without the fear of disappointing others.

• Managing Burnout: Develop strategies to cope with stress and allow yourself the time and space to rest.

• Healing from Past Hurts: Work through the pain of hurtful words and actions, fostering a healthier relationship with yourself and others.

• Building Self-Confidence: Discover your strengths and learn to celebrate your successes without guilt or doubt.

Take the First Step Towards Healing

Acknowledging the impact of these family dynamics is the first step towards healing. It’s essential to remember that feeling hurt or traumatized by these "jokes" doesn’t make you weak; it makes you human. Therapy can help you process these feelings and develop the skills to communicate your needs effectively.

If you’re interested in exploring therapy with a Filipina/xo or AAPI professional who understands you, book a free 15-minute consultation with Sweet Mango Therapy at bit.ly/sweetmangotherapy10